eli-defaria-9978 3 Discoveries That Will Help You Master Your Emotions - Dirk Swart | Life and Talent Strategist

There are certain discoveries you make in life that changes everything about you. You can’t discover a million dollars under a rock in your backyard, and then decide to put it back and forget about it. I'd like to touch on 3 of the most valuable discoveries that I’ve made. I’m saying “touch on”, because these principles are enormous and hitting them in one piece will only allow us to scratch the surface. These discoveries seems to have changed everything about me. I have also seen them positively influence the lives of others that I have had the privilege of working with. Once people become aware of these principles, they discover a new sense of empowerment and freedom. 

Here they are:

Discovery number 1: Emotions are Your Built-in Lie-detector

People that struggle with negative emotions like depression, anxiety, fear or anger often think of emotions as bad. They have seen negative emotions drive them to do and say things that made them feel even worse. We were wonderfully created (Psalm 139). Every single physiological function was created with our wellbeing in mind. This includes our emotions. So, if emotions was given to help us, why do they often feel so bad?

When you get a fever, it’s an indication that your body is fighting of some sort of virus or disease. The fever is not the enemy. The fever alerts us that there is an intruder. Emotions have a similar function. Emotions are our built-in alarm system. Or better yet: It’s our internal lie-detector…

“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” - John 8:32

“You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.” - Isaiah 26:3

“Free” and “perfect peace” are great emotions. They feel good. Why? They are in line with God’s Word, God’s Truth, and His Spirit in you. Negative emotions tells us that we believe something that is not in line with the Word of God. We are believing a lie. A lie will always clash with the Spirit in us. Hence the negative emotions.

Discovery number 2: Emotional Struggles are Rooted in Identity

What do you suppose would happen if you were to tell Raphael Nadal that you don’t think tennis is his thing. Do you think he’ll curl up in a ball and cry himself to sleep? No, of course not. Why? He knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that he’s one of the best in the world. Number one at the moment, in fact. That is his identity. An opinion like that doesn’t mean anything to him. It will not cause him any emotional discomfort.

When we have a strong and clear sense of identity, we will also not be phased by people’s opinion of us. When we experience extreme discomfort when criticized, it tells us something about our identity. It tells us something about what we believe. When someone’s opinion is not in line with the image you hold of yourself, it might be irritating, but it will certainly not cause you sleepless nights. You will be able to rest in the most important opinion of yourself: Your own.

“But God’s opinion is the most important”, the believers might argue. I completely agree, but you see, God’s opinion won’t mean anything to you until you make His opinion your own. That’s why your identity in Christ is absolutely everything. God sees us as the person abounding with the potential He put in us. In other words, it’s always positive, empowering and beautiful:

“Because you are precious in My sight and honored, and because I love you, I will give men in return for you and peoples in exchange for your life.” - Isaiah 43:4

We should do everything in our power to align our perspective of ourselves with God's perspective of us. So, how do we do this?

Discovery number 3: You Can Change Any Emotion with Your Mouth

Your circumstances are generally not the reason for your emotional state. Your emotional state is determined by your perspective on it and powered by your beliefs. Especially the beliefs you hold about yourself. Circumstances are merely triggers of what’s already there.

Did you know that your mouth wasn’t merely created for communicating, eating, drinking and kissing? Your mouth is one of the most powerful creating forces in existence. Except for creating outwards, your mouth is the single most effective tool for programming, and reprogramming, your mind. The words that you consistently use will eventually become your thinking. In other words, your words become your belief system and therefore your identity.

“The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters; The wellspring of wisdom is a flowing brook.” -Proverbs 18:4

“You are snared by the words of your mouth; You are taken by the words of your mouth.” - Proverbs 6:2

The substance of your inner man is determined by your words. Your words will either bring freedom and a wellspring of wisdom or it will be a prominent way of ensnaring yourself…

So, how do we know what we should speak? Well, seeing that lies bring negative emotion and bondage, truth will bring peace and freedom. But what is truth?

“Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth.” - John 17:17

Speaking the Word of God is the most effective way of changing your emotional state. Both in the here and now, as well as in the long run in changing your beliefs. Whatever is in line with the Word of God, is truth, and truth brings freedom. That is, great emotional state.

May you experience emotional well-being like never before.

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